My Enneagram Report

Don't compromise yourself. You're all you've got. — Janis Joplin

As a Type 1, The Idealist, you're an individual who sees how good things truly can be. This sense of optimism and discerning nature has probably helped you develop quite a strong set of values. However for you, it's not simply a question of having high morals; it's about having predetermined standards for each aspect of your life and setting the bar high. More than most people, you not only appreciate it when the things and people around are the best that they can be — you expect them to be. In fact, attaining your ideals and surrounding yourself with others who do the same helps your life feel balanced and right. However at times, unrealistic expectations may cause you to work feverishly toward your goals, believing that you can always do better.

While you're busy achieving great things and making excellent impressions — as you're bound to — you may also have an over-active inner critic chattering away in your head. This voice likely monitors both your actions and those of the people around you — and none too kindly. It may also point out people's faults and inconsistencies of character. Chalk this negative self-talk up to your acute attention to detail and try to quiet it whenever possible. It is a good thing to have benchmarks that you can measure life by. At the same time, focusing on these criteria too closely can lead to disappointment when things don't measure up. By learning to harness the most positive aspects of your idealistic tendencies, you can learn to embrace others' differences and celebrate their successes. Know that you can accept people's weaknesses — even your own — without having to abandon your moral character or strong sense of values.

Like everyone, to some extent your personality has been shaped by past experiences. One reason you may identify with Idealists, Enneagram Type 1, is if you received any heavy criticism from authority figures during your childhood. If this is the case, your personality may have developed so that you try to "be good" to avoid being a disappointment or getting into trouble in the future. Another possibility is that as a child you may have been encouraged to take on the kinds of responsible roles usually held by adults. This kind of situation could have created an inner pressure to perform well, as well as an expectation that you should always be capable beyond your natural level.





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When you're feeling your best, you probably experience a sense of oneness with others and understand that, really, everything is perfect — or at least perfect enough — just the way it is. You may also become aware that although it normally seems that there is only one proper way to do things, there are actually many correct paths. At these times, you can sense that life isn't always about what's right and wrong. Sometimes it's just about appreciating what's different. In this positive and open state, you can realize your full potential.

However, you aren't likely to be at your best every day. During the times when you're feeling your worst, you may become angry or guilty about not having reached your own high standards. You may also grow to resent others' successes or to feel dissatisfied with the state of your own life. At times when you've started to give up on yourself, you may notice yourself becoming clumsy or careless. You may also make even more mistakes. In critiquing these errors, you create an even lower opinion of yourself. Know that this kind of downward spiral is caused by a belief that you must be "good," or even perfect, to be worthy of love. By possessing such a worldview, you can try endlessly to be correct and proper and endlessly fail because there is no such thing as complete and total perfection in life.

How can you avoid feeling your worst and start feeling your best? Above all, have compassion for yourself. Try to recognize when you're being overly critical and stop talking yourself down. When you recognize that the world isn't perfect and that you aren't either, you can breathe easier and accept yourself the way you are. It will also help you to practice acceptance and forgiveness of others. Finally, allow yourself time to relax and play. You'll likely discover that you can be happy and productive without always needing to steadfastly focus on your goals.




As a Type 1, The Idealist, your typical strategy when looking for love likely involves making yourself as worthy of love as possible. To do this, you can make continued efforts to meet your self-imposed standards regarding what is appealing and acceptable. In essence, you try to be as good as you can be. You want any date of yours to know what a prize they have discovered. You may attempt to do this through elaborate pre-date grooming rituals that help you look your very best. You may also focus conversation on your accomplishments and successes. At times, these methods will work like a charm. When they don't, you're likely to feel a bit rejected.

At times when you're feeling unloved, you might blame yourself for not being good enough or hold resentment against others for not seeing how lovable you are. In a move toward greater self-acceptance, try to regard yourself as a whole being, not someone divided into "good" and "bad" parts. Let yourself feel worthy of love, despite your perceived faults. Realize that not all goals in life will be met. Things often work out in ways you didn't anticipate. Sometimes the results are better, sometimes worse, but most often they're just different. Try to embrace all these possibilities, especially as you're looking for love.

When looking for a romantic partner using Enneagram types, consider how the types interact. The descriptions below give a general sense of how well each type matches yours. They also describe where the pleasure in these matches is likely to be manifested and identifies challenges you may face.

Pairing 1: Shared vision. An "Idealist / Idealist" relationship is marked by high ideals and a focus on shared relationship goals. The two of you can be at your best when you're living by your mutually valued standards and achieving your dreams together. However, tension can occur between the two of you when you possess opposing views of what is right.

Pairing 2: Save the world. An "Idealist / Humanitarian" relationship is marked by a shared desire to improve the lives of others. The two of you can be at your best when you're using your shared time and resources for the greater good. However, tension can occur between the two of you if you take your Humanitarian's helpful suggestions as personal criticisms. They may also have a tendency to interfere with your need for space and independence at times.

Pairing 3: Achievement. An "Idealist / Entertainer" relationship is marked by high levels of achievement as both types are focused on success. The two of you can be at your best when you're both achieving the goals you've set for yourselves and showing support for one other's endeavors. Tension in your relationship can result from your Entertainer's tendency to cut corners and your opposing tendency to be a stickler for details.

Pairing 4: Sense of purpose. An "Idealist / Expressive" relationship is marked by a real sense of purpose and connectedness. The two of you can be at your best when you're sharing your time and thoughts to relate on a deeply personal level. However, know that criticizing your Expressive too harshly when they don't seem to fit your need for perfection can create tension in your relationship.

Pairing 5: Self-reliance. An "Idealist / Experimenter" relationship is marked by self-reliance and rational agreements. The two of you can be at your best when you're both taking care of your own needs and steering clear of emotionally charged issues. Tension is likely to arise when either one of you makes negative judgments about the other's morals or intellect.

Pairing 6: Strong and serious. An "Idealist / Advocate" relationship is marked by a desire to build a strong and serious relationship together. The two of you can be at your best when you're focused on doing just that. However, your Advocate's tendency to skeptically question your beliefs or plans may create tension in your relationship — especially if they trigger your fear of being proven wrong.

Pairing 7: Reverse limits. An "Idealist / Adventurer" relationship is marked by each having different perspectives on limits, constraints, and correct action. The two of you can be at your best when you're enjoying one another's differences and both making space for each other's views. Tension is likely to result when your respect for rules and regulations clashes with your Adventurer's fervent disregard for them.

Pairing 8: Joined for justice. An "Idealist / Leader" relationship is marked by a joined quest for justice and fairness. The two of you can be at your best when you're both behaving in ways that the other finds helpful and just. Tension between the two of you can result if you lack spontaneity or your Leader feels the need to impose the "right" ways of doing things on you.

Pairing 9: Steady. An "Idealist / Negotiator" relationship is marked by dependability, steadiness, and a desire for a harmonious relationship. The two of you can be at your best when you're taking good care of one another and valuing the other's company. If tensions arise in your relationship, it can be due to inflexibility on your part. It can also be due to any feelings of inferiority your Negotiator has regarding you.



Find a partner using Enneagram types
Find someone who will love you for who you are. Not everyone is a perfectionist. There are loads of people who will treasure you for both your excellence and your self-proclaimed faults.

Now that you know what your Enneagram type brings to a relationship, you can begin your search for a partner who has a compatible type. Try this:


Think about how you can learn to manage your negative tendencies in a relationship. By preparing for your next relationship in this way, you can give yourself a head start to having smoother relations in tough times.


Print out the nine compatibilities provided above and place a star next to each pairing that appeals to you. Consider both (a) the allure of the positive aspects and (b) how well you think you could handle the negative aspects. There isn't a relationship pairing that exists without tension, but you can choose the kind of tension you're most comfortable with.


Now get your search started. How can you find out the Enneagram types of potential partners? There are a few ways: (a) you can try to guess a person's type by the way they interact with you on a first date, (b) you can encourage them to take Tickle's Enneagram test and tell you what their type is, or (c) you can search on Tickle Matchmaking where available singles have posted all kinds of Tickle test results (including the Enneagram) so that others can get to know about their personality before agreeing to a first date.









Your enneagram report

How your type works for (or against) you

Compatibility in love

Compatibility at work

History behind the test

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You'll usually do your best in positions where processes and procedures are in place. This leverages your ability to follow the rules and keep things orderly. In management positions, you can run a tight ship. You also excel at streamlining and systematizing an organization. Fields you are most likely to be suited to include teaching, research, or accounting.

When you're considering employment with a new company, one of the most important things for you to think about is how well you'll get along with your potential co-workers. The descriptions below give a general sense of how well each of the Enneagram types matches yours in the workplace, as well as how well you're likely to work with that type in supervisory and support positions.

Here's what you're likely to experience working with:

another Type 1 (The Idealist): Shared vision. When you're working harmoniously with your own type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will find that you can achieve great things as you both have the same high standards and work ethic. Be aware that you may experience friction if you have differing approaches to what is moral and correct.

Type 2 (The Humanitarian): Save the world. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, your efforts will likely be focused on improving the plight of others, perhaps through non-profit work. Be aware that you may have friction if the Humanitarian tries too hard to help when you really don't need — or want — their assistance.

Type 3 (The Entertainer): Achievement. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you can be focused on success almost to the exclusion of all other things. Be aware that you may have friction if the Entertainer cuts corners on details that are important to you.

Type 4 (The Expressive): Sense of purpose. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will be operating as a tight team with clear goals. Be aware that you may have friction if the Expressive takes your professional criticisms personally and gets hurt.

Type 5 (The Experimenter): Self-reliance. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will work separately and rationally toward shared goals. Be aware that you may have friction if the Experimenter seems to believe that they are intellectually superior to you.

Type 6 (The Advocate): Strong and serious. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will have a solid working relationship built on loyalty. Be aware that you may have friction if the Advocate questions your beliefs too much, causing you to feel picked on. Type 7 (The Adventurer): Reverse limits. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you will understand and respect each other's approach to authority. Be aware that you may have friction if the Adventurer disregards the company's authority in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or angry.

Type 8 (The Leader): Joined for justice. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you work together for the cause of justice. Be aware that you may have friction if the Leader becomes too controlling or overbearing.

Type 9 (The Negotiator): Steady. When you're working harmoniously with this type as either the boss or the subordinate, you trust that your work relationship will remain dependable and steady into the future. Be aware that you may have friction if the Negotiator develops feelings of inferiority to you.



Find a suitable work environment using your Enneagram type
When you're looking for work, don't forget to thoroughly check out any prospective employer to make certain that they can provide you with what you need to perform your best. Now that you know more about what your Enneagram type says about your work style, ideal work environment, and co-worker relationships, you can use this information to find the best job for you. The next time you're considering a new position, try this:


When you prepare for your interview, come up with at least one question that relates to your major Enneagram characteristics. For example, a Type 1, the Idealist, might ask: "How well organized are the processes and procedures within the organization?"


After your interview, take a moment to review the Enneagram type work compatibilities above. Try to see if you can guess the Enneagram type of each person that you interviewed with. Ask yourself: Do you think you will be compatible in the long-term?


Finally, if you feel uncomfortable with the people you interviewed with or suspect that you won't be compatible down the line, don't hesitate to let the opportunity go. Working with people you don't get along isn't likely to help your job satisfaction or success. Consider whether you'd be better off waiting for a better fit.









Your enneagram report

How your type works for (or against) you

Compatibility in love

Compatibility at work

History behind the test

For More Reading



The true origin of the Enneagram as a tool for self-knowledge is unknown and often disputed. Many theorists believe that the Enneagram dates back over 2,500 years to Pythagoras, where the symbol of the Enneagram first appeared. Others believe that it dates back less than 1,000 years, only as far as the Sufi mystical tradition. There the Enneagram appears as a part of Sufi teachings on personality and spiritual development.

Contemporary understandings of the Enneagram come to us from the writings of Georges Ivanovitch Gurdjieff, a Russian traveler and writer of the 19th and 20th centuries. In his travels, Gurdjieff spent time with the Naqshbandi order of Sufis and learned about the Enneagram as it had been passed through Sufi oral tradition. He then shared what he learned though his teaching center in Paris. Although Gurdjieff did not teach the Enneagram as a personality typing system, he did describe how it relates to centers of consciousness and ego-personality.

The first modern reference to an Enneagram personality typology is found in the teachings of Oscar Ichazo (1931- ), who founded the Arica Institute in New York. Ichazo claims to have realized the Enneagram through intuition and revelation, although it's believed that he must have been in contact with a Sufi spiritualist. Claudio Naranjo (1927- ), a psychiatrist, Gestalt therapist, and a student of Ichazo's with a significant background in Gurdjieff's teachings, further developed the Enneagram personality typology. From there, Bob Ochs, a Jesuit priest, learned about the Enneagram from Naranjo and began to teach the personality theory surrounding the Enneagram to students at Loyola University, a Jesuit university in Chicago. Indeed, the Enneagram owes much of its popularity today to Jesuit priests and Roman Catholic retreats and spirituality centers.

While the history of the Enneagram is mysterious, it's regarded by many to be an excellent tool for understanding yourself and your relationships with others. The Enneagram continues to be studied and refined by present day Enneagram enthusiasts, psychologists, and authors for use in clinical settings and corporate America. Tickle has brought this Enneagram Test to you in the hopes that it advances your self-knowledge, as well as offering you new insights on your personal and business relationships. If you're interested in learning more about the Enneagram, its uses, and its fascinating history, Tickle's research team recommends the reading list below.

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All About Ex's

How Close Should You Be With Your Ex?

For many couples, there's an ex-spouse in the picture. But what sort of relationship should you have with him or her? If you have a child together, you do have the responsibility to be a good parent. However, being overly friendly with your ex can cause stress and negative effects on your current relationship. Dr. Phil offers these three points:

1. It's a New Day. Face it: you aren't married anymore. You separated for a reason, and now you must move on. If you are remarried, it's especially important that you define boundaries with your ex. Otherwise, you'll wind up with divided loyalty—a recipe for relationship trouble.

2. It's Your Responsibility. Redefining your relationship with your former flame is up to you. It's not enough that you behave properly; you must also be certain that the relationship has no appearance of impropriety. 

3. Include Your New Spouse. Does your ex need your help occasionally? Fine. Your new spouse is coming along for the ride, too! This will help to show that while you're willing to be amiable, you have a new life with a new love.

 

Should You Give Your Ex Another Chance?

It's often tempting to go back with an old flame. But are you setting yourself up to get burned? Dr. Phil McGraw says you shouldn't play with this kind of fire.

If you get out, stay out! You tried a relationship once, and it didn't work. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so you're likely to face the same old problems.

 

If you're going to be stubborn and try it anyway, do the work so you can say, "I know exactly why this failed before and I'm confident that it's been fixed." If you can't say that honestly, then you're not ready.

 

Are you the person who made the mistakes before? It's your responsibility to fix them. Otherwise, you're simply saying to your partner, "I want you, but not enough to earn my way back into your life." Prove that you're worth another try.

 

Don't just think that time has passed and that time heals all wounds. Time heals nothing! Deal with the reasons behind the breakup, or you'll wind up breaking up again.

 

 

THE NERD? GEEK? OR DORK? TEST

The Nerd? Geek? or Dork? Test:

Modern, Cool Nerd
(78 % Nerd, 65% Geek, 34% Dork)

For The Record: A Nerd is someone who is passionate about learning/being smart/academia. A Geek is someone who is passionate about some particular area or subject, often an obscure or difficult one. A Dork is someone who has difficulty with common social expectations/interactions. You scored better than half in Nerd and Geek, earning you the title of: Modern, Cool Nerd. Nerds didn't use to be cool, but in the 90's that all changed. It used to be that, if you were a computer expert, you had to wear plaid or a pocket protector or suspenders or something that announced to the world that you couldn't quite fit in. Not anymore. Now, the intelligent and geeky have eked out for themselves a modicum of respect at the very least, and "geek is chic." The Modern, Cool Nerd is intelligent, knowledgable and always the person to call in a crisis (needing computer advice/an arcane bit of trivia knowledge). They are the one you want as your lifeline in Who Wants to Be a Millionaire (or the one up there, winning the million bucks)! Congratulations! Also, you might want to check out some of my other tests if you're interested in any of the following: Buffy the Vampire Slayer Professional Wrestling Love & Sexuality America/Politics THE NERD? GEEK? OR DORK? TEST

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Time For A Rant

If you really know me, then you know I have been waiting almost a year for Motorola/Verizon to release the V9m, aka the RAZR2.  Well I received it this morning.  There I stood at the front door of our office as the FedEx driver grabbed the package and strolled my way.  I snatched it from his hand, scribbled my name on his package tracking device and ran to my office.  There I sat in my office, a huge smile on my face as I ripped the box open.  I was running around like a duck in a hail storm, not knowing which way to turn, or what to do next.  I finally decided to  let it charge up before diving in to discover all of the wonderful features Motorola promised to deliver. 

While charging the phone, I gathered all the required information to activate and program it so it would be fully functional when I powered it up for the first time.  Finally it was time, I called the activation number, followed the prompts, and it was active.  Next I called to activate it and update it with the latest signal information.  It was good to go!

Now comes the fun part, I thought to myself.  Was I ever wrong.  You see, over the years, Verizon has had this thing about disabling all the really cool stuff.  For instance, it's easy to make a ringtone, but Verizon wont let you load it on your phone, it used to be easy to sync your calendar, but now they have disabled that feature.  Why you ask?  MONEY!  I noticed that they recently added a new subscription based app for their phones ( only $19.95 per MONTH ), that will sync your email to your phone, as well as your address book and yes, your calendar.  They also sell ringtones, wallpaper, and of course you can download music to your phone.  You can load music to your phone out of your collection, if you buy their software and cable.  Luckily I am not falling for their tricks.  You see they hire college graduates with degrees in programming to design their software, big mistake, really big mistake.  If you don't believe me ask Bill Gates.  Any 13 year old Russian kid with a pc can figure out how to hack past all their bullshit.  Just this afternoon I was able to get in the "backdoor" of the phone and change a couple of settings.  Give me another week and I'll have the firmware flashed with the original motorola software and be happy. :)

The point I want to make here is that THEY are doing this to us, and we are letting them.  So what do we do?  We need to bitch about it, let them know we will not stand for half-assed products that do not do what they are advertised to do.  We will not let them trick us into spending more money because the product we buy does not do everything it is capable of doing. 

If you ever need your cell phone tricked out, hollar at me, I'll see what I can do.

Thanks for listening to me bitch.

 

You're friend 'til the end,

 

J.R.

About My Personality

Your Personality is Very Rare (ENTP)

Your personality type is optimistic, curious, enthusiastic, and open.Only about 4% of all people have your personality, including 3% of all women and 5% of all men. You are Extroverted, Intuitive, Thinking, and Perceiving.